The other day I was rushing to leave our house. It seems as a mother I am always running behind somewhere! :) I was in my closet gathering some clothes to take with us on our trip to Mimi's house. My daugther was standing in front of the closet door guarding it from the dogs. Then I said to her with a hurridly voice, "Jazzy come on lets go, lets go..." Though I wasn't yelling my tone wasn't Mommy's happy calm tone. My daughter started to get upset and I had to stop what I was doing to hug her, tell her I love her, and apologize for my tone.
It was a reminder to me the importance of our tone when we are around our children. Our tone effects our children. Though they may not always verbalize it, they feel it. We are their role models and how we express and manage our emotions is important for them to observe.
Also, reassuring her of my love for her is expressing that my love is unconditional. Children are so impressionable and they need to feel that unconditional love from Mommy and Daddy. This is a big part of building their self esteem, which I know we all want to do!
So, watch your tone...I know I AM! :)
Dr. Nina
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